Having spent time with family abroad, I notice the masks most people wear, whether to impress others or make themselves more likable. Do we loathe ourselves to such an extent that we seek comfort in the approving thoughts of others? It’s common to repeat the same discussions in family gatherings – the fast passage of time, ourselves, and worst of all, other people. I often remain silent and disinterested when such topics arise, and I’ve been criticized for it. While I must admit that the subject matter of our conversation was not immediately captivating for me, I made a conscious effort to engage and discern its underlying psychological perspective. It highlighted an intriguing facet of human nature: our inherent tendency not only to navigate our personal journeys but also to venture into others’. This underscores the prevailing inclination many possess to form opinions about virtually every aspect of others’ lives.I’ve been advised to maintain a smile, to leave a positive impression, but why should I? Is my presence and thoughts not sufficient? Am I expected to smile and nod as people defame others? I’ve encountered those who have insulted me behind my back, doubted my social abilities, yet I’m still expected to greet them warmly, as if I am oblivious to their true nature.
Why should my father hold his siblings in higher esteem than his spouse? Is it not absurd to prioritize someone you were born with, over someone you chose, influenced, and built a family with?
Albert Camus proposes that life is inherently absurd, and any search for a definitive purpose is in vain. Camus suggested that we must envision Sisyphus, the mythic figure doomed to eternally push a rock uphill, as content. The absurd hero acknowledges life’s absurdity and finds purpose in rebelling against it. I consider his ideas, yet I challenge them, accepting a middle ground between Stoicism, Confucianism, and Islam. After all, what is a religion but a philosophical text involving a deity?
I conclude this chapter with a quote from Eleanor Roosevelt, “Great minds discuss ideas; average minds discuss events; small minds discuss people.”
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